When you marry everyone around you talks about the seven-year itch. It’s like the plague without a vaccine. I recently started watching the reality TV show Seven Year Switch. It began as a drama filled show that I would communicate back and forth with a fellow author friend. The more I watch, the more I think about it.
Here are a few questions that have risen since watching?
What would I do if approached to swap lives?
Would I want to trade it all in, even if it was for ten days?
Why would I wish to train another person on my likes, and dislikes?
After eighteen plus years, do I care what we have in common?
Now, let’s figure this out.
What would I do? Hell NO…
One: TV adds like 10 pounds to your body, and I so don’t need that. Two: I don’t want to watch myself on the flat screen. Three: I just don’t want to do it.
Would I trade it all in?
No, I wouldn’t. I will admit though while watching it a few weeks ago, I did ask myself … Would it change anything? I have to say no, as I’m curious to how this show turns out in the end. In some ways I think it will only hurt the couples. Here’s how it works. You spend ten days with a stranger that you are matched with while your spouse is with their spouse. You share a bed, a house, and deep personal talks with someone other than your spouse. They put you through experiences that you should be having with your loved one. Again, in the end I smell disaster.
Would I want to train someone else? NO! I mean I’ve been with the same person since the 90’s, we are pretty sure on what the other person likes and doesn’t like. Our habits, our desires, our dreams. Now, you have to just hope that at the end you can work through the issues that you had before, and what might have risen from the show.
Do I care?
Yes… Very much so… But here’s the thing as I reflected back to a thought while watching a few weeks ago. Would I want to know if the grass was greener on the other side? How would it be for us if we decided to take that chance to see if we were not compatible and should’ve married a different person? I don’t want to know, as I wouldn’t want to change my life. I’m like all wives that think to themselves and even express the fact that we don’t feel appreciated, but then so does your spouse. It’s a tug-a-war battle for all marriages. Does the itch actually happen? Yes, it does. Can you avoid it? No, because I’m pretty sure that just like cupid, we have an itch fairy that comes along and sprinkles fairy dust over your house and wreaks havoc on your life. I’ve only met a few couples that say they have never experienced this, but I think that was a total lie. They must have been smack in the middle of the itch.
The show does point on a few good things to remember. You do still have to work at it, even years into the relationship. Every year you grow as a person, every year your spouse grows; not to mention you throw a few children into that mix.
Let’s treat each year as it was your first. Have a date night, make your spouse feel appreciated. Talk to them, and enjoy their embraces.
Take that Seven Year Cupid.
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